I like to think that generally, I’ve gotten good at living in the present moment as much as possible and trying to appreciate it for what it is. But this energy>malaise>irritability loop I’ve been in alerted me to this underlying discomfort about where I’m currently sitting.

Most of us have had one of these at one time or another…a screamer. A boss who felt it necessary to call you out loudly in front of everyone. Who treated your mistakes like moral failings… Whose demand for “high standards” felt irrational and insulting….My boss’ fear became our fear, and my gray hair…

The thing is , I created this situation decades ago. In my early days of motherhood and creating a home I wanted all that Christmas magic, and I didn’t trust anyone else to do it right. Created all that stress for myself and then got a little resentful when I got too tired. Classic controller/people-pleaser situation.

I want to capture that secret magic that makes him love the world no matter what it puts in front of him. That unconditional love he has for everyone that makes them feel safe and grounded in his presence – even if today he doesn’t remember your name or exactly how you are related. No matter, he’s happy to see you...

There I was at the Starbucks, phone in hand, app opened to scan the ‘scan in store’ barcode when the barista asks me:  “Would you like to use your rewards today?”  For a moment I froze.  I don’t know, would I…? 

I’m not so into New Year’s resolutions. Too aspirational and destined to fail. I’m about successes baby!  So after reflecting on the year that has passed, I give you: “Anne’s Old Year’s Resolutions” !

…and when I’m not as happy with my belly, or my hair or my whatever, I can always take a look at my Fred Flinstone feet. 

My obsession with the idea of habit & rituals led me to do an informal survey of my friends and family about their habits and routines. The answers offered fascinating insight into some of my closest people that I didn’t know. Got me wondering if I wonder if they recognize the powerful effect their rituals have in their lives. There is so much power in habit/ritual/routine…. So I wanted to share some of them with you - and show you their impact.